Since Nico Tortorella landed the role of Josh on TV Land’s “Younger” in 2015, they’ve been juggling creative projects while using the platform to be vocal about sex, sexuality and LGBTQ+ advocacy. Last year, Tortortella released a collection of poetry, entitled “All of It Is You,” just weeks before marrying their longtime partner, fitness instructor Bethany Meyers.
And in September, Tortorella’s memoir was published. “Space Between: Explorations of Love, Sex, and Fluidity” details everything from struggles with alcoholism to conversations around sexuality and gender identity, both private and in public.
Tortorella, 31, shares an apartment in Manhattan’s Financial District with Meyers, 33, and their two dogs, Papa and Sun. But the couple often spend weekends at their home in Poughquag, New York.
SOUND BATH I usually wake up, I will make some coffee, some tea, take the dogs outside, and I’ll plug in my VoiceLive Touch, which is my voice modulator, and I’ll set a pretty deep reverberating baseline using my voice, layer it, and kind of set an experimental meditative sound in the house.
Sometimes, I’ll throw lyrics on top of it, some sort of mantra for the day, and it’ll just be playing on repeat, just echoing through the halls. And Bethany and I both will go up to it and add different things to it, take different things away, and that’s kind of just how we set our intentions for the day.
SWEAT We’ll put on the sauna, which is literally in the middle of my living room. It’s a big, three-person, infrared sauna smack dab in the middle of the living room next to the fireplace, and we’ll spend an hour in there.
MARKET RUN This Sunday we’re going to go to a farmer’s market, pick up some food for the meal that we’ll prepare later, and lunch. We have so many mushrooms on the property, and I have gotten relatively O.K. on knowing which are good to eat.
There’s a bunch of great farms up by the house where we go get raw milk, cheese, eggs, and if the weather is nice, which I’m hoping it will be, it’s looking like it is, we’ll take the canoe and the paddleboard out on the pond.
HIKE We have a big 10-acre pond in our backyard, and that’s usually how I get my workout in when I’m upstate. There’s a waterfall back behind the house. We’ll go on a hike which leads to this big overlook which is just absolutely amazing.
KARAOKE We listen to old-school country music, with a gospel vibe. Bethany grew up in the Baptist church, and we definitely vibe out to some old church music on Sundays, for sure, with a country twang. Lots of Johnny Cash.
Bethany knows more about the names of that stuff than I do. I kind of just go, “Hey Siri, play this.” Sometimes we’ll throw in some karaoke on the microphone and Bethany starts singing it, but usually we’re just listening to it.
LIGHT READING I’m listening to “The Argonauts” on tape right now by Maggie Nelson, and I have the hard copy upstate, so maybe I’ll pick that up as well. I couldn’t get through it the first time I picked it up, and then I started listening to it. It’s so much easier to listen to because she gets quite masturbatory with her language, and you can zone out when you’re listening to it in parts and pick up where you need to.
MOVIE NIGHT When we’re upstate, we’ll watch a movie or something before we go to bed. We have a little den room, and we’ll lay out pillows and blankets on the floor, on the couch and just lounge out with the dogs and watch something.
I usually just watch everything as soon as it comes out, and Bethany’s very picky and doesn’t usually make it all the way through a movie. So, most of the time is spent actually deciding on what we’re going to watch. But we love a cartoon, Disney-animated Pixar all day.
And then, we’ve been watching a lot of TV recently. We just watched “Orange is the New Black,” the new season. “Ramy,” we just watched. I just watched “Euphoria.” I’m watching “Years and Years” right now.
MOM TIME I definitely will call my mom. Multiple times a day. My mom’s my best friend. It’s been so interesting to watch her transition into a new person as my journey has been unfolding. All of a sudden she has a group of queer friends in Florida, and it makes me so stupid happy and proud. We are all always capable of transformation.